Every week in my change groups there is a “check-in” period during which group members report on the progress they are making toward their goals. I am often dismayed to hear them minimizing, belittling, or outright dismissing their weekly accomplishments because they feel they are too “small.” Somehow, they feel that their progress doesn’t count […]

We know that the road to success often requires self-discipline, or choosing long-term gain over short-term pleasure: resisting a cupcake in the service of losing weight, enduring the hardship of homework in order to achieve good grades, spending hours in training in order to win an athletic championship, or passing up the unplanned purchases to […]

On January 1, positive feelings surround the clinking of the champagne glasses and the vow to make changes in the new year. For a moment, our feelings of self-disappointment, defeat, and frustration get replaced by hope and optimism. But are we using the promise of change to fix our feelings and NOT to fix our […]

We know that people vary in their ability to choose successfully between conflicting desires and impulses. We also know that the road to success often requires self-discipline, or choosing long-term gain over short-term pleasure: resisting a decadent piece of cheesecake in the service of losing weight, enduring the hardship of homework in order to achieve […]

We are notoriously bad at predicting how we will think and feel and behave in the future.  Psychologist Daniel Gilbert has devoted much of his research and writing to the topic of the mistakes that we make when we try to imagine our “future selves.” It turns out, though, that meeting and getting to know […]